BDSM 모든 것/관계 칼럼
The Object Who Says Ask Me First May Be Offering More, Not Less
There is a particular kind of pause that can confuse people who are new to objectification play. The Object has already chosen the scene, agreed to be arranged, and stepped into a role where their ordinary preferences appear to recede. Then, just before a hand moves, a garment is adjusted, or an instruction becomes real, they say: “Ask me first.” It can sound like a retreat from the fantasy. Som..